You have probably read my previous post where I explained I was finding it hard, well that hasn’t changed & if I am honest, I don’t think it ever will after all they say parenting is the hardest job.
But I gave myself a talking to and this is how I feel.
It is so easy to be overwhelmed by everything that needs to be done. Every single morning I wake up with a list so long that NEEDS to be done & I imagine many more parents do too.
I remember when I first came home with the baby my motto was one thing a day, so if that was walking the dog and going to the shop that was my thing, if I achieved that then I was happy. Why should it be any more complicated now?
As a working Mum I often feel guilty, sometimes I am asked:
- “how do you do it all?”
- “how do you manage with the baby?”
- “isn’t it all a bit too much?”
In my head these translate to:
- Are you managing
- Is your baby getting enough attention
- Are you prioritising work over baby
Don’t get me wrong guilt and paranoia have a big hand in this! But “How do you do it all” isn’t always a compliment, sometimes more of a question & one that stirs up a lot of guilt in me.
So I will answer the question, once and for all. How do I do it all?
I don’t know. There really is no other choice when you are a mum. Mums don’t have the luxury of waking up on a morning and deciding “No, not today, I will do it another day” There is the waking up, the putting a smile on our face, the remembering to be grateful (or grumpy at times), and the being a mom. Not a perfect mom. Just a mom.
And if you are working mum there is that to add to the above.
Oh, I don’t do it all I’ll mumble while wondering if I’m doing too much or am not intentional or on and on. I just do what I have to do.
It’s not a bad question. It’s just not a needed question.
Listen. We don’t do it all. We do what we can.
You mess up. I mess up. We forget to put the laundry in the washing machine. We are late. We get discouraged. We have Supermom-feeling days. We have days when we cry. We race around doing the same thing over and over. We function on no sleep.
It’s not everything. There’s no finished to-do list in motherhood. Ever.
Do you know what there is?
There is you.
Loving, giving, teaching, learning, failing, and trying again.
And you are amazing ❤